In the Final Chapter of Birthing Humans…

In the Final Chapter of Birthing Humans…

The bumps I’ve run across in my life have sometimes seemed to be larger than the physical bumps developed in my belly I carried for 9 months and vice versa! Nevertheless, both bumps birth something from me that is extraordinary, life-altering, and God-ordained—despite the occasional pain and discomfort in labor and delivery or overcoming the bumpy unforeseen obstacles of life!
What’s birthed from those bumps in life prepares me for the bumps that create precious life… and the lives created inside of me will forever grant me all the confidence, strength, and endurance I need to overcome and press on!
I’ve created and accomplished a lot, secretly and on grand stages… but none of it will ever compare or surpass the amount of joy I have that God has chosen me to create and steward all of these little people for His glory!
I’ve filled my quiver with arrows to shoot out into the world; may my children arise and call me blessed! All that I do, all that I sacrifice, all that I fight for, all that I accomplish, and all that I am is to honor ALL 6 of you and our creator!
I pray that my Story is constant proof that obedience is greater than sacrifice… and He lives, He forgives, He loves, He empowers, He redeems, and He Alone is more than enough!
The Final Chapter of birthing humans is slowly coming to an end, but it’s the beginning chapter of so much more! 👀
Our Story, His Glory! 

Did Your Marriage Hit a Rough Patch? 7 Faith Resources To Help Get It Back Right

Did Your Marriage Hit a Rough Patch? 7 Faith Resources To Help Get It Back Right

Marriage gets tested receptively! There are sweet spots, rough spots, and times you want to be finished because you feel you must journey through things you didn’t sign up for. On the wedding day, no one knows just how good their good times will be or how daunting their worst times will be. The secret to being ready for whatever comes? Clinging to God in both times of joy and times of hardships.

One of the major resources my husband and I turn to first is marriage counseling—and I’m not talking about “this is our last straw, things are obviously terrible right now” counseling. I’m talking about benefiting from counseling even when things appear to be going well. We like to go to a counselor at least twice a year, even when no issues have surfaced. Just because you don’t hate each other and aren’t arguing all the time does not guarantee there aren’t any hidden issues. A trusted counselor could help you identify the things you’ve improperly learned to disregard or misplace.

When we’re not turning to counsel, there are a number of resources we keep in reach to both revive and enlighten us on a regular basis. Especially during times our marriage has hit a rough patch, these resources have proved their value in more ways than one. 

Here are 4 books and 3 podcasts to add to your resource list of places to find healthy marriage tips and lessons:

 

Books

 

(1) 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: 

About The Book: Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? In this book, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner.

 

(2) Things I Wish I Knew Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman:

About The Book: “Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage.” No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent. This is not a book simply to be read. It is a book to be experienced. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful “Talking it Over” questions and suggestions.

 

(3) Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas

About The Book: Within the pages of Sacred Marriage, Thomas invites you to see how God can use your relationship with your spouse as a discipline and a motivation to love God more and reflect more of the character of his Son. In addition to life-changing insights from Scripture, church history, and time-tested wisdom from Christian classics, you’ll find practical advice and techniques to make your marriage happier by becoming holier husbands and wives.

 

(4) Victory Over Darkness: Realize the Power of Your Identity in Christ by Neil T. Anderson

About The Book: It’s Jesus’s promise to you–the promise that you will live triumphantly. But what keeps you from really walking in the joy of the Lord? The powers of darkness attack us daily. But, as Dr. Neil Anderson shows in Victory Over the Darkness, you can have the power to conquer them by knowing who you are in Christ. This book spells out practical ways to experience Christian growth based on Christ’s promise.

 

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Podcasts

 

(1) Why or Why Not with The Watsons Podcast

Meet “Why” aka Benjamin and “Why Not” aka Kirsten as they discuss topics ranging from keeping the spark in your love story, to how to talk to your kids about race. Tune in to hear how they approached the crazy life of the NFL and mindfully apply biblical truth to their daily lives with their family. You will laugh and you may cry, but in the end their hope is that their different approaches to situations bless you and your family.

 

(2) 30 Minutes with the Perrys Podcast

30 Minutes with The Perrys is a podcast with a whole lot of truth given in a short amount of time. Preston Perry and Jackie Hill Perry bring their humor, honesty, and insight into conversations on everything from relationships, theology, politics, race, and parenting. You won’t be disappointed.

 

(3) Tony Evans’ Podcast

Dr. Tony Evans is one of the country’s most respected leaders in evangelical circles. As a pastor, teacher, author, and speaker, he serves the body of Christ through his unique ability to communicate complex theological truths through simple, yet profound, illustrations. While addressing the practical issues of today, Dr. Evans is known as a relevant expositor. His podcast features his latest sermons that have been a blessing to our lives individually and as a union.

Debunking 5 Myths About Homeschooling

Debunking 5 Myths About Homeschooling

Homeschooling has become an increasingly popular alternative to traditional schooling over the years. However, despite its growing popularity, there are still many myths and misconceptions surrounding homeschooling. Some people believe that homeschooled children lack social skills, while others assume that homeschooling is only for religious families.

In this blog, we will debunk 5 myths and provide a more accurate understanding of what homeschooling entails.

 

Myth #1: Homeschooled Kids Aren’t Exposed to as Much as Kids Within Traditional Education

The myth that homeschooled kids isn’t exposed to as much as kids within traditional education is not entirely accurate. While it’s true that homeschooled kids do not have the same exposure to traditional classroom settings, they are exposed to many other learning opportunities that can be just as valuable.

Homeschooled children often have the opportunity to explore a wide variety of interests and hobbies that they might not have time for in a traditional school setting. They can also have more flexibility in scheduling, which allows them to pursue extracurricular activities, internships, and volunteer work. Many homeschooling families also participate in co-ops, where children attend classes, workshops, and other group activities with other homeschoolers.

In addition, homeschooled children often have more one-on-one attention from their parents or tutors, which can lead to a deeper understanding of the material they are studying. They can also work at their own pace, which can lead to more in-depth exploration of topics that interest them.

Myth #2: Parents Must Have Experience in the Education System to Homeschool Their Kids

The myth that a parent must have experience in the education system to homeschool is simply not true. While having experience in education can certainly be helpful, it is not a requirement for homeschooling.

In fact, there are many resources available to parents who choose to homeschool their children, including curriculum guides, online courses, and support groups. I’ve used plenty throughout my journey. Many homeschooling parents also learn alongside their children, and there are many resources available to help parents educate themselves on the subjects they are teaching.

Furthermore, homeschooling is a highly individualized form of education, which means that parents can tailor their approach to their child’s specific needs and learning style. This can be especially beneficial for children who may struggle in traditional classroom settings, as homeschooling can provide a more personalized and supportive learning environment.

While some states may have specific requirements for homeschooling parents, such as completing a certain amount of education or training, these requirements are often minimal and can be easily met.

Myth #3: Homeschooled Kids Can’t Go to Ivy League Schools

The myth that homeschooled kids can’t go to Ivy League schools is simply not true. Homeschooled students have been accepted to Ivy League universities and other prestigious institutions of higher education.

In fact, homeschooled students often have unique experiences and accomplishments that can make them stand out in the college application process. They typically have more flexibility to pursue their interests and passions, which can lead to impressive extracurricular activities, volunteer work, and internships. And as I mentioned before, homeschooling can also provide a more personalized and individualized education, which can lead to a deeper understanding of subjects and higher levels of academic achievement.

While the college application process can be more challenging for homeschooled students, there are many resources available to help them navigate the process and demonstrate their qualifications. For example, some colleges and universities may require additional documentation, such as detailed transcripts and portfolios of work, but homeschooling parents can work with organizations that specialize in preparing these materials. With the right preparation and support, homeschooled students can achieve academic success and pursue their dreams. 

 

Myth #4: Homeschooled Kids Can’t Play School Sports

The myth that homeschooled kids can’t play school sports is not entirely accurate. While it is true that homeschooled children may not have access to school sports teams in the same way that traditional school students do, there are still many opportunities for homeschooled children to participate in sports.

In many states, homeschooled children are eligible to participate in public school sports and extracurricular activities. This is often referred to as “homeschool access” or “equal access” legislation. Some states may have specific requirements, such as proof of academic progress or certain eligibility requirements, but in general, homeschooled children can participate in school sports as long as they meet the same standards as traditional school students.

In addition, there are many other options for homeschooled children who want to participate in sports. Homeschooling organizations, community sports leagues, and private clubs often offer sports programs and teams for homeschooled children. These programs can provide opportunities for homeschooled children to socialize, compete, and develop their athletic skills.

Myth #5: Homeschool Kids Are Socially Awkward

The myth that homeschooled kids are socially awkward is simply not true. While there may be some homeschooled children who struggle with social skills, there is no evidence to suggest that homeschooling inherently leads to social awkwardness. In fact, my kids are amazing in social settings.

There are many opportunities for homeschooled children to socialize and develop strong social skills. Homeschooling parents often organize social activities and field trips for their children, and there are many homeschooling support groups and co-ops that offer regular opportunities for social interaction.

Furthermore, homeschooled children often have more flexibility in their schedules, which allows them to participate in a wide range of extracurricular activities, volunteer work, and internships. These experiences can provide valuable opportunities for socialization and help homeschooled children develop strong interpersonal skills.

It is worth noting that social awkwardness is not limited to homeschooled children. Children in traditional school settings can also struggle with social skills, and there are many factors that can contribute to social difficulties, such as personality traits, developmental differences, and life experiences

Whether you are a parent considering homeschooling for your child or simply interested in learning more about this educational option, I wrote this blog to help provide valuable insights and information. I hope it helps guide you in the right direction for YOU.

 

 

2022 – My Year In Reflection

2022 – My Year In Reflection

 

What a year! 

2022 consisted of many mountaintop, valley, and desert experiences. I began the year feeling content and ecstatic about so many new visions. Some of them may have been a little over the top, but others were certainly manageable. I was experiencing immense joy and felt on top of the mountain. 

I won’t lie and say that every smile was authentic and every yes was pure. Social media shows the highlights and I can’t say every photo or post accurately depicted where I was in that current moment – especially because my dream team plans months in advance.  

Somewhere in the middle of the year, I was hit with unendurable pain, falling into a valley. I will be honest in saying that I was shaken. I questioned God a time or two, and I’ve had to use every imaginable strength I possess to keep standing.

However, countless unique opportunities presented themselves, and now I’m keeping my head above water with a ridiculous amount of hope!

Life is a rollercoaster ride.

You either get on the ride with great anticipation of fun or nervousness about what could possibly go wrong. But once you buckle your seatbelt there’s no certainty of what your overall experience will be. Regardless of what you’re experiencing on the ride, you’re not in control of operations, so you can’t just jump off if you become uncomfortable. You have to allow the rollercoaster to run its course. 

The same is true in life. Nothing is certain, so all you can do is buckle up and make it through whatever comes your way. You must endure the good and the bad, all while putting your faith in God and trusting that He has a plan. 

So as I reflect on 2022, I beam, I weep, and I rejoice. I remember that although many of my circumstances and people changed, God never did! Even when I felt shaken, he reminded me why unshakable is in my DNA. The one thing I will forever cling to is Him. As I wait on Him I will praise Him because I’ve seen His goodness and His faithfulness!

I urge you to reflect on your 2022. Don’t minimize or maximize what the year was filled with. Write down everything you can recall about your mountain, valley, and desert experiences. The hardships make the good moments even sweeter. Everything you’ve gone through has helped you to grow. I assure you that not an ounce of it will be wasted!

Looking ahead to 2023.

I’m not sure what’s ahead in 2023. But I’m self-assured I will continue to pursue He who makes all things new and unconditionally loves me beyond measure. I will continue to give my people my best, but only after I’ve poured my cup first – affirming myself like never before. Finally, I will no longer dim my light for others to shine. There’s enough darkness in the room for us to all authentically shine!

Our Family’s Christmas Traditions

Our Family’s Christmas Traditions

I absolutely love Christmas, it is fascinating to me. Christmas has become one of the most magical seasons and loving on those dearest to my heart while learning more about them is so special. Most importantly, it’s a powerful time for reminiscing on the miraculous gift of Jesus! 

Years ago, I established an ample amount of Christmas traditions that my family cherishes! Some of our traditions include:

On Christmas Eve

On Christmas Eve, we host a party and cook everyone’s favorite appetizers. I get everyone (including our guests) matching Christmas pajamas and we play music, games, and have deep dialogue. 

The kids participate in a Gingerbread house competition where they each build and decorate their own Gingerbread house. But don’t worry, everyone’s the winner!  

Demario and I always sneak away at some point during the night for a special surprise. He dresses up like Santa and I dress up as his elf. We give everyone in the house a gift and then slip away, returning as ourselves again. The entire crew loves it and it is prosperous for us to make everyone’s eyes twinkle. 

Before bed, we bake cookies to leave as snacks for Mom and Dad when we are working on getting gifts out!

On Christmas Day 

On Christmas Day we begin the day by reading the birth story of Jesus. I want to make sure that my little ones understand what we are really celebrating. We exchange gifts, followed by a mouthwatering brunch. We end the day with a delicious Christmas Dinner!

Although we celebrate all the normal Christmas traditions, I DO tell the kids that Santa is a character (like Mickey Mouse), and he’s not capable of all the things we sing about. It is very important to me that they know the real history and facts about the reason for the season!

The Giving Manger

A couple of years ago, we added “the giving manger” to our Christmas traditions. This practice teaches the kids to serve others, be intentional about kindness, and prepare for baby Jesus to go on display in the manger. We read the book and lay out the manger. Each day they are able to add a piece of straw after doing an act of service for someone. Once we’ve added all the straw from serving others, we get to place baby Jesus in the manger. 

This is a great Christmas activity because it reminds the kids of the true meaning of Christmas and the importance of giving back to others in Jesus’ name. 

We did let go of the elf on the shelf. It was just too much to remember to move those things every night. But I may add them back this year! 

Wishing everyone a Merry Christmas, from our family to yours!

Thanksgiving is not complete without…

Thanksgiving is not complete without…

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite days of the year! It involves so many things that I love: Football, Family, and Food. This year I’m hosting my biggest Thanksgiving gathering to date. My aunts and cousins will be joining us in New Orleans to celebrate the holiday. We are honoring my late grandmother with this meal by cooking her famous spread. I’ve always wanted to be the matriarch of my generation and there’s so much joy bubbling as we plan for the special day!

Here are some of the things the Davis Family Thanksgiving is not complete without:

Football

My husband, Demario, has worked on Thanksgiving for the past eleven years. As a football player for the New Orleans Saints, he either plays in a game or practices at a facility. Because of this, we always plan our Thanksgiving around football! We either watch Demario play or watch whatever game is on if he is not playing. Watching football on Thanksgiving Day is a tradition many families enjoy, and the Davis family is no exception!

 

Family

Where there is family, there is fun! Demario, our five children, and I love celebrating the holiday together, but our family extends even further beyond that. They say it takes a village, and our village is big and beautiful! Our friends, teammates, and neighbors have all become a huge part of our village. We love to wear matching or coordinating outfits on the holiday. Some of our other fun traditions include a game night on Thanksgiving Eve and a talent show on the big day.

Food

Of course, Thanksgiving would not be complete without delicious food! As someone who loves cooking (and eating), Thanksgiving is a great opportunity to make some of my favorite dishes. This year, my aunts and I are all planning on working together to create our late Grandmother’s spread. Our spread includes fried chicken, dressing, and collard greens. Some of our favorite desserts include my special banana pudding and my kids’ favorite: sweet potato casserole. Joining the family around the table to eat a delicious meal – what could be better than that?

Faith

Thanksgiving is also an important time for reflection and faith. Take a moment this holiday to think about all of the things you are thankful for. Taking the time to practice gratitude helps you focus on the wonderful things you have, instead of focusing on the things you don’t. I am grateful for my beautiful children and loving husband. I am grateful to the Lord for sharing His infinite wisdom and guidance with me. I am grateful that He continues to work through me and I am thankful for everything God has given me.

Fun Crafts, Gratitude Chain

Gratitude is a practice I want to bestow upon my children. This year we will be creating a gratitude chain – a fun DIY craft to help them reflect on the things they are grateful for. Making the gratitude chain is very simple. All you need to do is cut strips of construction paper, have the kids write what they are thankful for on the strips, and connect them like a chain. I love simple activities like this that are easy, not messy, and teach my children important life lessons.

Happy Holidays!

 

From,

The Davises